Keeping it short:
Perhaps, given the rest of the circumstances, the forum wasn’t the best idea. The person who posted as Chili2008 made my day. What Grover said is true: there are already a few “ouch” questions up there.
Also. I received the first of six? Perhaps seven? rejection letters. Hey, at least they misspelled my last name.
Both/and all I wanted to do was call J.
I’m sorry for all the self-pity. I’m going to make some graham bread.